Happy One Year: 10 Things I’ve Learned Being Married to You

(Photo via Myra.Photo)

This last weekend Stephen and I celebrated our one year anniversary! We spent the whole day Saturday driving around like we were on a road trip and eating the best Mexican and Italian food we’ve ever had in San Diego. It was a much needed date since we haven’t gone on one since our son was born and the last few we’ve had I was miserably pregnant.

Stephen and I met 7 years ago and dated for 2 years. We spent much of our waking days with one another and seriously thought we knew everything about each other! We definitely knew a lot but during our couple years away we both have changed and have had to get to know each other again and it’s been quite an adventure, not to mention marriage is always different than dating. Here are 10 things I’ve learned this last year:

(November 2009)
(July 2010)
  1. Blending families is tough. Or if you marry later in life, or you married really young, or too soon, or with kids or without kids. Marriage is just tougher than our ideal of what it’ll be like.
  2. What ever thoughts you nurture about your spouse will be the way you start perceiving them to be. If you think about all the negative and the things that bother you, they’ll start to annoy you more but if you focus on their strengths and think about the positive you’ll see the good.
  3. If you’ve got young kids and you want to…you have to schedule it in. That’s all I’m going to say on that one.
  4. Dates are important or else the person you’re married to starts feeling like a roommate. I resist this one for some reason, probably because I hate trying to find a babysitter.
  5. Having defined roles works for us. I have an aunt who says her husband makes the money and she spends it and I first thought it was silly and ‘poor husband’ but now I get it and it really works best for us that way too. It makes things much less complicated when you only have one spender. Only I like to say he makes the money and I work at stretching the dollar.
  6. Sometimes your spouse seems crazy…sometimes they think you’re nuts!
  7. You need a spouse who finds you lovable, even when you feel you aren’t. It makes the world of a difference when there is forgiveness and seeking to understand.
  8. One on one dates with kids are important too. If you want to make sure everyone feels needed and important, taking time to do one on one with everyone in the family really helps.
  9. Laughing is important…laughing at the appropriate time is important too. I think I’ve almost got the one down now.
  10. Marriage only works if you’re married to your best friend.

I love you Stephen! Here’s to many many more years.

(Photo via Myra.Photo)

Konmari Method: Clothing (Part 2)

In Part 1 of my Konmari clothing post I talk about keeping things that spark joy and I touched briefly on the folding method technique that makes us able to only need one dresser. I want to talk a little more about Konmari’s method of hanging clothes, how this method has been going for us, and storing clothes.

The best description for how to use the closet using the Konmari method comes from her 2nd book “Spark Joy” and my closets can give you an idea of what Marie Kondo is talking about.

“Clothes made of thicker materials, such as jackets, suits, and coats, should be stored on hangers, as should any items that are hard to fold or that wrinkle easily, such as men’s dress shirts and garments that are made of fluttery material…When hanging clothes, be sure to arrange them so that they rise to the right. Keep the same category of clothes together: coats with coats, suits with suits, jackets with jackets, and so on.”

We have 2 really good size closets in our 2 bedrooms but only half of each closet is dedicated to clothes. As you can see, my daughter’s doesn’t have much in there. The hanging shelves is for my babies clothes. On the other half of my daughter’s closet I hang wet clothes that I don’t put in the dryer. Once dry I either fold or hang in my closet. The rest of the space is dedicated to storage that I’ll get to in future posts.

My closet is the same as well. I put mine and my husband’s clothes to one half of the closet because I like to keep closet doors open. The other half is also where we store things. I also have pants and skirts in hanging shelves that don’t fit in my drawers. [Confession- I’m scared of closed closets and closed shower curtains. I want everything out in the open at all times. I don’t like places where people can be hiding.] So my closets are always open.

So far using the Konmari method for clothes has been working out really great. I can see why she recommends doing this first in the process of decluttering- it’s not the biggest of a commitment. I’m still struggling with papers. My husband loves that he can see all his clothes in his drawer since they’re all upright. The downside is I’m so particular about how things are folded, I’m the only one who can do it, but I had that problem even before I adopted this method of folding.

Storing: I got a question from a friend on Instagram about children’s clothes- do I keep ones they’ve out grown yes or no? I first want to say that my husband and I don’t have any clothes in storage. And the answer to my friend’s questions is yes! I won’t get rid of children clothing until I’m 100% sure we are done having children. Although I hate storing things- clothes are a big investment cause children grow so much so fast you have to have a lot of different size of clothes. I buy large storage bags at the dollar tree and with a sharpie I label the size of clothes on the bag. I then put it in a plastic storage bin. I always keep a bag out of the plastic bin in the closet so when clothes get too small I can quickly put it in a bag so clothes don’t overflow everywhere. Here’s an example of my son’s clothes he doesn’t fit in yet but I’ve been gifted or purchased on sale for the future. Lastly I want to mention that I try not to have my children have much more than clothes per size that can’t fit into one bag. Any much more than that amount is too many clothes for a child who’s going to grow out of them soon.

I hope you are inspired to go through your clothes and declutter what doesn’t spark joy in you. Please let me know what your thoughts are and share your decluttering process either here or on social media!

Konmari Method: Clothing (Part 1)

If you haven’t heard about the Konmari Method of decluttering your home and life you must be living under a rock. Marie Kondo, author of two best selling books, “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up” and “Spark Joy,” is a professional organizer in Japan. She has clients world wide and has a very long waiting list.



One thing she does differently than most professional organizers is that she doesn’t declutter by location, (bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, etc.) but she goes by category. Starting with easiest items first and then doing the more difficult items last -such as sentimental items.

I’ll give you a quick intro of how she does it with clothes, since I actually did this months ago.

  1. Gather all your clothes in one pile
  2. Pick up every single item one at a time
  3. Hold each item and see if it ‘sparks joy.’ Do you love the item? Do you like wearing it or does it remind you of something negative like a person or an event. Is it the wrong size? Does it have a hole?
  4. If it sparks joy, keep it. If not thank it for when you had it. Ex. “Thank you, I really enjoyed all the times I’ve had with you but our time is over now.” “Thank you for the lesson you taught me-that I realized this color doesn’t look good on me and so I won’t buy a shirt this color again.”
  5. Folding: she recommends folding everything or just about everything and she has a special way of folding everything from socks to pants to dresses. Her method of folding maximizes space. This makes everything have no wrinkles and compact. You want to be able to have everything stand on its own and to place everything in drawers standing up. I have one example below of how to fold a shirt but if you want to see other items just look her up on youtube. There are a ton of videos of her and other people folding the konmari method.

Is it a longer process of declutter your clothes? Yes- but it starts to ignite gratitude for objects whether you’re keeping it or not. And it makes you more in tuned of what sparks you joy and what doesn’t. So from now on you’ll make more conscious purchasing choices. It could be that you realize you aren’t going to buy something just because it’s on sale, but that you’ll only buy things you love -even if that means owning less. The key to this method is having intention with everything you own.

Have you tried any of her methods? Let me know!

(Our 1 set of drawers for our family)

Decluttering Toys

The first step in simplifying your life is to declutter. And a few weeks ago I had had it with how much my daughter’s toys were consuming our apartment! Not only was it scattered in her bedroom but our couches were lined with toys, our dining area had piles, and toys would even end up on our bed throughout the day. I have seen on Pinterest a lot of people who divide up the toys and put half away and rotate them out and I’ve always thought, “that’s not going to be my house, she won’t ever have that many toys.” Well guess what….it is my house! So that’s exactly what I ended up doing. I know some of you may laugh because the above picture is literally all the toys she has and for a lot of western world kids it’s not a lot, but it’s too much for me.

I few months earlier I had already gone through her toys and gotten rid of little silly items. To describe what I mean: like the equivalent of cheap toys from fast food restaurants, except not because we don’t get happy meals and things of that nature, but you get what I mean, right? So I didn’t have toys that I felt like I could get rid of at the time. My main piles were anything play-food related, stuffed animals and baby items, small toys/figurines, and crafts/puzzles. Once I made piles I divided into half within the piles. This I actually had my daughter help me with. If there were 4 in a pile I’d ask which 2 she’d want at the time and etc. I didn’t hide that I was putting the toys away. I did it right in front of her and had her be apart of it. I told her that anything going in the tub that she wants to play with later, we would have to swap all the toys. So far it’s been going really great! It’s been a lot easier for her to pick up her toys at the end of the day (because they all fit into 3 boxes that go on her shelf and a basket on the side of the shelf). And for the most part, the toys are staying in her bedroom which helps me to keep the rest of the house clutter free! No, let’s be honest…less cluttered!

Please share your tips on how you corral the toys at your house, I’d love more tips.

I’m Back

I’m going to attempt blogging again. I have blogged on and off since I think 2010. Then I believe back in 2013 I finally figured out my niche, what I’m truly passionate about: simplifying. Having a desire to simplify stems from feeling overwhelmed with the constant distractions and excess we have in our modern society. So I created Simplicity In All Things to blog about people I admired that were simplifying their lives and to document my own journey to do the same. 

But since 2010 I have gone through some major transitions. I now am married with two children and the whole idea of blogging really had to be put on the back burner for some time to get through all my crazy transitions.

Since my son was born this July I seriously feel like my belongings have doubled and I want to document my declutter process and share it here. Plus in the last couple of years I feel I’ve become less mindful and more in survival mode. So I’m on a personal mission to make my life more simple, more meaningful, and more enjoyable and I’d love for you to join me.


Almond Milk

Finished Milk 1 Finished Milk 3

Almond is so simple and easy to make. Since I don’t consume cow’s milk I don’t use a lot of milk in my daily diet anymore, but sometimes I like to have granola with milk or put it in my smoothies. Though for the most part alternative milk companies are good at keeping things simple, there’s nothing that beats homemade. Simplicity to me is having the least amount of ingredients in our foods prepared as possible. You won’t get any preservatives or additives in this milk!

  1. Soak 1 cup of almonds overnight in a bowl, or at least 8 hours.
  2. In the morning, drain the water and and put in a high speed blender, like a vitamix blender, almonds, 4 cups of water, and sweetener in or flavoring like vanilla as desired. I put in 3 dates.
  3. Blend in blender for 1 minute.
  4. Over a bowl, place a milking bag and pour the blended mix inside. Then milk the liquid part out until you only have the almond pulp left.
  5. Keep almond milk chilled. Good for up to 5 days.

You can use the pulp in anything; baked goods, the homemade cracker recipe I made, even soup. And there you have it, your very own Almond Milk.

Homemade Crackers


I’m not one for having things that come out of boxes be eaten on a regular basis. Living a simple life to me means eating as close to the earth as possible for optimal health, not to mention the waste of plastics and cardboard that come with packaged foods. That being said, sometimes you are in a rush and need something on the go that you can take when doing errands around town. I would really struggle trying to think of something that my daughter could eat that actually sat well with me, could be taken on the go, and wouldn’t make a large mess (like fruit). So what better way than to make my own crackers. These are vegetarian, but can be made vegan with an egg substitute. They also can be made with gluten free flour if desired. I used whole wheat flour in my crackers with wheat that I ground myself, ensuring it to have maximum nutrients from the flour. 



  • 2 1/2 cups whole wheat flour
  • 1/4-1/3 cup honey
  • 1/4 cup coconut oil (preferably melted)
  • 1/4 cup applesauce (unsweetened)
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1/2 tsp baking soda
  • 1 egg
  • 1/4 cup almond milk
  • Optional add ins: basil, parsley, oregano, rosemary, thyme (I added in fresh rosemary)


  • Preheat oven to 350.
  • Mix all the dry ingredients in one bowl.
  • Mix wet in another.
  • Add wet to dry and mix until combined.
  • Gather the dough into a ball and wrap it with plastic.
  • Stick it in the fridge for about 10-15 minutes so it gets a bit more firm.
  • Once it’s firm, cut the dough in half
  • Tear two pieces of parchment to line your baking bans.
  • Roll out half the dough by placing the ball on top of one sheet of parchment paper, and the plastic wrap between the dough and the rolling pin.  This will let you roll the dough out very thin without it sticking.  It also makes for easy transfer to the baking sheet.
  • Roll the dough out very thin.  Try to roll it out in an even square if possible.
  • Once the dough is rolled out, score it with a pizza cutter.  I cut mine into bite sized squares.  This will make the pieces come apart very easy.
  • Repeat these steps with the other half of the dough.
  • Once done, bake in the oven for about 15 minutes.  Watch them carefully though, because everyone’s oven is a bit different and they can easily burn.
  • Once the edges look browned, pull the pans out and carefully flip the pieces over.
  • Bake for another 5-7 minutes, or until the pieces are crunchy.

Recipe came from http://www.mywholefoodlife.com

What I Take When I Travel: Hygiene



Hygiene Travel 1I’m going to be traveling for the next two weeks and I wanted to share with you what basic, simple essentials that I bring with me on the road. My daughter and I share one small bag. Here is what’s on my list for hygiene. Above I have lotion, shampoo, conditioner, body wash, and essential oils. I try to use very natural products. Now that I’ve been using products that don’t have synthetic smells, I can tell a huge difference with other conventional hygiene products and I’m super sensitive to them now. So it’s essential for me that I have my own products wherever I go. The lotion that I’m using right now is called Everyone Lotion, the citrus+mint scent. I also like the lavender one too. My shampoo is called Everyday Coconut Shampoo. Love this shampoo! My conditioner is from the same company as my lotion. It is Everyone Hair, the coconut scent. The body wash that I use, and is my favorite body wash, I’ve been using off and on for 3 years now, is from Dr. Bronner’s Castile Soap. I have used the peppermint, lavender, lemon, and the baby safe one that is unscented. The one I’m using currently is the baby unscented one, but I recommend all of them! If there’s one product that you should take with you, I would say Dr. Bronner’s castile soap because you can use it in your hair as well. FYI- castile soap is made from vegetable based items, not an animal product, like lard, etc. Then lastly, I bring my Past Tense, Breathe, Lemon, Peppermint, Lavendar, and On Guard.   
Hygiene Travel 4I used to have really bad acne, and now that I don’t, I try to embrace my clear skin by not wearing a lot of make up. I use ZUZU luxe powder foundation, a brush, mascara (that you can get from walmart), concealer (incase I get one or two zits 😉 ), and a mix of liquid and pencil eye liner. Some Alba Botanica sunscreen, and floss and my toothbrush and toothpaste. Since I got an electric toothbrush….I’ll never go back! Usually I make my own tooth powder, that you can find my recipe from my old blog, but my clay is still in my house, where my soon-to-be-former-spouse still lives.
Hygiene Travel 2I don’t know if this is considered “hygiene” but I pack this with my hygiene products. I use Q96 multi-vitamin as well as it’s B12 and D3 sprays. I definitely can tell a difference when using them. The middle one from Nature’s Way, is actually and probiotic that stays refrigerated, and lastly, I take Lutein because it’s supposed to help eye support if you are under fluorescent lights all the time or stare at a screen a lot during the day.

Alright well I hope you enjoyed seeing what products I use on a regular basis, and what I am taking with me for the next two weeks on the road. I hope it inspires some of you to try and use more natural products that help your overall health. Hope you all have a great day!


My Declaration


To start off this new chapter of my life, I thought it very appropriate to write a declaration for myself. What I see my life purpose as, how I want to think, feel, what kind of people I want to be around, and what kind of person I want to become. Everyday I will read my declaration to myself, out loud because I believe in manifesting how your life will turn out. I have already seen this happening in my life through past experience. We are in charge of our lives, so now is the time to take charge of it. I hope this gives you inspiration for you to write your own declaration for your life.

I live a simple life. I am free from cluttered spaces, unneeded obligations, and addiction.
My body and mind is clean and clear. I am a conscious being for all, through what I consume; be that purchase, eat, watch, read, and think. I practice conscious parenting.
I find ways to be enlightened. I believe that the truth will set you free. That I am an infinite being who sees my potential and that God loves me. I have abundance. Abundance manifests itself in all aspects of my life.
Everyday I live in gratitude. Love, charity, and harmony are my driving characteristics. I allow only good wholesome and uplifting things in my physical, mental, and spiritual body that promotes health and happiness.
I breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat fresh living foods, and I am in the sun.
The purpose of my life is to learn self-mastery, to be a leader, and to help others along their journey in life.
I see life as an adventure filled with excitement.
I will seek those that are like-minded throughout the world. People who seek improvement, love, charity, harmony, and adventure.
My words and thoughts are uplifting and build myself and others up. I am a producer, not only a consumer.
I am happy. I feel light and am guided in life through what makes me feel light.

This declaration was inspired by Lou Corona. If interested in writing a declaration yourself, check out his website: http://puradyme.com/lifestyle/declaration/

An Update: Where Have I Been The Last Couple of Months?

After I was so blessed to be featured on CNN.com, I should have taken that opportunity and run with it! Unfortunately, it was right in the middle of a hard transition in my life. I have been separated from my spouse for close to 4 months now. Today I sent off my signed papers to my lawyer. Yes, I’m getting a divorce. These last 2 1/2 years has brought a lot of things into my life, not to mention a beautiful daughter who recently turned 1 years old. I have had immense growing experiences, but when it was all said and done, I knew this chapter of my life was over. I won’t go into more detail but the best thing I can do at this point is to not regret. No, I will allow myself to feel the emotions that I feel, when they come, and then ask myself, “what have I learned, what can I learn from this growing experience?”

That being said, I am ready for this new chapter in my life now. I’m ready to come back to my blog. This blog is still about simplifying all parts of my life but I plan to be open, honest, and share my personal growth along my journey of life as it comes. Thank you for all the new people following my blog and thank you for all the kind comments/messages I have received. They are much appreciated! Here’s to the journey, I’m so glad to be able to share this with all of you.